Tips for Raising Daughters Part 3 of 3

Tuesday, 31 October 2023
Written by Wayne Alcorn

Confession. I’m clueless when it comes to raising daughters. We only had sons. Until recently, even our grandchildren were all males. When I spoke to a number of fathers regarding this project, they felt that it would be important to address this subject. So I asked three remarkable dads; all of whom have raised confident, healthy, mature young women. Some of them are now married. Some are already mothers themselves.

Three Tips from Rick

Tip one

Be slow to anger and go hard on the encouragement. Many years ago, God challenged me to give one dollar ($1.00) every time I raised my voice to my daughter/s in anger. It revolutionised my relationship with them. Whenever I ‘grumped’ they just held out their little hands and said “one dollar please”. Often it would break the tension and we would laugh. I also had a very good feedback loop if I was constantly giving out money. How we speak to our daughters can affect their relationship with their Heavenly Father. Words of encouragement are always welcome.

Tip two

Be authentic – As a dad, our daughters see everything we do. I worked hard on being the same at home as in public. I praise my children at home and in public. I pray and read my bible at home as well as in public. Joy can be shared anywhere. However, the silly dances and hair bands in the hair (mine) are for home only.  

Tip three

Go out on Dad Daughter Dates and have a listening ear. Treat them as a young women should be treated - open the door for them, pay the bill, listen to what they have to say in the moment. You will never regret this investment of time.